Human beings are neurologically designed to be social. It’s literally in our nature—we need each other. For this reason, the necessity of social support is among the most powerful components for your mental and psychological health. Our evolutionary development over the millennia has programmed us to literally need the support of others. This deep-seated desire for connection surfaces in almost everything we do. Think about it…

When we’re young, we crave our parents’ attention; as we grow, that craving for acceptance is then transferred to our teachers, mentors, peers, and eventually our spouses, bosses, clients. So the question then becomes: How do you adopt the community mindset and create lasting connections with others?

Keep reading to find out. 


Build Bridges Instead of Putting Up Walls

The other day, I was talking to a young guy (who happened to be a millennial). And he told me a crazy story; he said…

“I feel like I never fit in and because I feel like I don’t fit in, I start behaving that way, which pushes people away, and then it becomes this self-fulfilling prophecy that makes me feel stuck in this cycle.” I had a lot of empathy for him because I could totally see myself in his comments at certain points in my life.

Now, here’s the thing…

It marks a massive point in your development when you realize that in a relationship, there are two of you, but you are only responsible for you. 

What does that mean?

That means rather than putting up walls, you need to build bridges; rather than judging and making other people feel unsafe, you have to think a lot about how you can create safety for others. 


4 Simple Questions to Shift Into the Community Mindset

Becoming more community-conscious begins with you. It has its roots in thinking about how you can give to others in the form of a safe atmosphere. And the best way to do that is by asking yourself: 

1. Do you create safety for other people?

2. Do you create an atmosphere of support and belief? 

3. Do you foster a sense of belonging and affirmation with others?

Your answers to these questions will help you determine whether or not you’re creating a safe space for others. And this is important. Why? Because your relationships with other people will ultimately determine not only your mental health but also your financial outcomes in addition to the whole of your life. 

And so I’d like to leave you with one last question to help you make the transition into community-conscious thinking…

4. Are you living in a way that attracts people to you or that repels people from you? 


Closing Thoughts

Community is a necessary component to flourishing in life. We can’t lead healthy, happy, and fulfilling lives without the quality relationships with supportive people that make life worth living. With this being the case, it’s essential to find your tribe. You need to associate with like-minded individuals who can help you thrive in this challenging and ever-evolving world. 

And at Flourishing Certified Coach, we want to help create that environment for you. Our team of trained coaches and facilitators is here to guide you through our science-based methodology to flourish in every area of your life! So if you’re ready, contact us today to learn more. 

About the Author

Abe Brown, MBA, CMCT, CPHSA is the Coach’s Coach, and is an Entrepreneur, Professional Speaker, International Best-Selling Author, and High-Performance Leadership Coach. He is the founder of Certified Flourishing Coaching™, the Flourishing Life Coaching Program™, and Flourishing Workplace. Abe is also the author of the Certified Flourishing Coaching™ Programs.