Do you feel lost in the world? Are you confused about who you are, where you’re going, or what you should do with your life? If so, you’re not alone. In fact, according to Statistics Canada, more than 1 in 10 Canadians over the age of 15 report that they often feel lonely and disconnected. To put that into perspective, that equates to about 320,000 Canadians who feel as if they’re being left behind.
So this begs the question: What is the key to becoming the person you know you are, the person you might have forgotten you are, the person you long to become? The answer may surprise you; it lies in your environment, surroundings, and those you associate with because…
Community Shapes Identity
In my 25 years of research, I have studied how belonging creates resilience. And I have seen this play out in my youth assembly presentations. I have witnessed socially anxious people, unsure of themselves and shy and insecure, step into the middle of a circle, surrounded by their peers to be seen. And this has helped me realize that:
- We don’t have to let our anxiety define us
- Many of us are unnecessarily afraid to show up to community
- Community is what we need to become who we really are
Everyone has a spark within them. However, that spark must be supported, nurtured, and encouraged for it to flourish. And that’s exactly what community helps you do!
You Flourish When You Belong
Humans are social creatures; it’s hardwired into your neurology to seek connection and belonging. For this reason, finding a place that welcomes and celebrates who you are will help you to thrive in unimaginable ways—connection allows you to flourish. Here are a few things you can do to find your place of belonging:
- Identify your core values, interests, and passions
- Find local groups, clubs, or organizations who share your views
- Contribute to your community with no attachments or expectations
- Make it a habit ALWAYS to give before you take
What’s Next? Start Growing in Community Today
Evolution has designed us to need community for our growth, happiness, and mental health. It’s a need everyone must satisfy. As a result, the key to becoming who you truly are can be found in community. And that’s why here at Certified Flourishing Coach, we believe so much in growing you in community.
And the best part? Our expert team of coaches and facilitators are here to help make it happen. You can become everything you’ve ever wanted to be if you find a safe environment that supports you. So, if you’re ready, contact us today to become a part of that environment.
About the Author
Connie Jakab has been working in resilience and flourishing for over 20 years. Starting with youth at risk and gangs in East Vancouver, Connie has been researching how community creates resilience and mental wellness her entire career through a sociological lens.