From Helper to Coach: Letting Go of the Need to Rescue

From Helper to Coach: Letting Go of the Need to Rescue

Early on in my coaching journey, I took pride in being the one people could count on. If there was a problem, I stepped in. If someone was stuck, I carried it with them—sometimes for them. It felt like leadership. It felt like coaching. But over time, it started to...
Detached, But Deeply Caring: The Paradox of Great Coaching

Detached, But Deeply Caring: The Paradox of Great Coaching

For the whole of my work as a coach, I have cared deeply about my clients. Maybe too deeply. I would carry their goals, feel their setbacks, and quietly hope they’d make the choices I knew would help them succeed. And when they didn’t? I felt it. That’s when I learned...
5 Signs You’re Over-Attached as a Coach

5 Signs You’re Over-Attached as a Coach

I remember a season where I’d leave coaching sessions still thinking about the client hours later… replaying the conversation, wondering if they’d follow through, hoping they’d make the “right” decision. It felt like care. But it was actually attachment. And...
Open Up! How Honest Talk Transforms Your Brain Chemistry

Open Up! How Honest Talk Transforms Your Brain Chemistry

Open Up! How Honest Talk Transforms Your Brain Chemistry I once coached a leader who carried the weight of the world behind his smile. He looked composed, competent, in control—but inside, he was drowning. During one session, he finally said the words he’d been...
Change Your Mindset, Not Your Problem

Change Your Mindset, Not Your Problem

Change Your Mindset, Not Your Problems: A Powerful Leadership Tip A few years ago, I was coaching a leader who was stuck in what felt like endless frustration. Every meeting brought a new challenge—staff issues, budget cuts, competing demands. One day, he sighed and...